Let’s Be Real, Being THAT Girl is Exhausting

💌 Written by Coco

 I know this might sound super unrelatable, but I’m tired of always being THAT girl. THAT girl who’s always in the latest fashion, always at every rooftop party, always the one people want to be—because it seems like she has it all together.

Well, let me tell you, being THAT girl isn’t always all glamorous. People expect A LOT from you because they’ve placed you on an imaginary pedestal. I always have to look flawless, have the wittiest comebacks, and never let the image crack.

The turning point? Maxing out my credit card on a gorgeous silk dress in a Gucci store—while still needing to pay rent. I actually had to—can you believe it?—look for a job.

I had no credentials and got turned down by every chic designer store I dreamed of working at. Out of options, I took a part-time gig at a thrift store in SoHo. It wasn’t exactly my scene—being surrounded by crusty, worn clothes from some grandma in the ’60s. 

But then, I started noticing something. People found joy in the imperfect, the worn, the stories stitched into every thread. The essence of vintage. And slowly, it grew on me.

Then it hit me—like an oncoming truck. I had tied so much of my self-worth to material things: popularity, designer clothes, staying on-trend. 

But one thrifted Levi’s denim jacket later, I realized my self-worth isn’t about what I wear, where I go, or who I’m with.

It was in me all along.

Don’t get me wrong, I still love nice things. But I’m learning to detach—so I don’t spiral when I miss out on the latest season’s shoes. Redefining self-worth is a long ride. 

What are some of the affirmations you practice to validate your self-worth?